THE FIVE GUYS YOU MEET FRESHMAN YEAR OF COLLEGE

So you're finally a college girl. You're an adult (in your eyes) and you're finally free of the immature guys from your high school. Maybe you've never had a boyfriend, and maybe you've dated the entire football team -- but it's all behind you now. You're ready to take on the sea of thousands of guys you're surrounded by every day when you're out with friends or even just sitting in class. The possibilities are endless!! But the truth is, there's a much more narrow window of dateable guys in college than you may think. Because you're looking for a quality guy who will be mature, who will date you exclusively, and who will treat you right. And that, my friends, is much more difficult to find than you may have predicted. This article isn't meant to bash college guys. I have so many great guy friends that any girl would be lucky to go out with, and I love them so much! But, realistically, not every guy is going to be dateable in college. Here are the 5 guys you're going to crush on your freshman year. The One Who Turns Out to be a Player So you're out with friends, and you've met the best guy ever. He's funny, he's cute, and he's talking to you!! So you talk for about an hour before returning to your friends and you're telling them all about him. You turn around to point him out, and he's already dancing with another girl (maybe two at the same time). He makes eye contact with you and turns to his guy friend and whispers something you can’t make out as they laugh, seemingly at you. This guy is a player. He's out with his friends to talk to girls and hopefully get a few numbers he can text when he's bored. It turns out he was only talking you up because you were number 4 on the long list of girls he's been flirting with that night. However, you didn't want a scummy guy like that anyway. God knows you would be wasting your time with him. The One Who Ends Up With Your Sorority Sister You’re at a party, and you’re talking to this cool guy about your classes, your friends, and your hometown, and then your sorority sister passes you. You’re so nervous that you grab her and introduce them! You give her the look that says, “I’ve had to use the bathroom for ten minutes but I don’t want him to leave so KEEP HIM HERE” and you rush downstairs to use the restroom. You get back, and they’re still there, thank goodness! You rejoin the conversation, and eventually your friend departs cuz she has an 8 a.m. She’s the best for keeping him busy! As soon as she leaves, he turns to you, and you expect him to ask for your number cuz your friend was talking you up while you were gone. And then he says “She’s super cool, do you mind giving her my number?” This is how life works. Of course you planted her right in front of him for this to happen, and of course he didn’t just ask her in the first place. Because you were the one that had to be friend-zoned and become the messenger to connect these two after you thought you had DIBS. You’ll get over it though, because they’ll be an adorable couple. And you’ll picture yourself five years later at their wedding, and you’ll sit at the bridesmaid table patting yourself on the back for making it happen. The One Who Won't Commit You know this guy. You watch movies together, get coffee, and study at the library together a few times a week. You've met his friends, and he's met yours. It seems like it's going in the right direction, and then one fateful day you muster up the courage to ask him what this all means to him, and where it’s going. And he tells you that you’re a sweet girl and all, and he really likes you, but he doesn't want a girlfriend until he's a JUNIOR. As someone who doesn't plan on being played for two years as the "girl he has a thing with" at social events and on Instagram, you can't wait around for this guy. Anyone who doesn't commit to you is not worth a second of your time. God knows there's someone else out there who will treat you better! The One Who's Too Immature You've been out a few times with the sweetest guy, and you're having a great time! He's met your friends, who all say he's super cute, but you have one thing that holds you back... every time he opens his mouth, you cringe. He makes inappropriate jokes, he sounds like a 12-year-old who swears for the sake of swearing, and he's terribly ignorant. You just can't seem to take him anywhere without worrying he's going to say something that offends the people around you. The very idea of introducing him to your parents is almost too much to bear without panicking. The truth is, you’re never going to be able to make it work. Who wants to go out with a 12-year-old? Maybe you when you were 12, but you’re too far past boys like that to start dating one now. College boys can be really immature, but as a woman of intelligence, you can’t walk around with him and call him your boyfriend. The One Who Ends Up Being A Best Guy Friend It’s freshman orientation, and you’re partnered with a really nice guy for a team-building activity. You get to know each other in that fifteen minutes you’re in that awkward getting-to-know-you type of game, and then you depart for your group’s lunch time. But wow, that guy is awesome! Hopefully you’ll see him again. And you do, three weeks later when you’re on the elevator during move-in! Thankfully you’re not with your parents, and he’s not with his, and you make plans to walk around campus and get coffee later that day. You’re doing that get-to-know-anyone-and-everyone thing that freshmen tend to do, and before you know it you really like this guy! But it’s not like you want to date him anymore, because you have officially reached the status of good friends. You’re going to have pizza on weeknights in your pajamas, and you’re going to march into his room in a face mask looking for a stapler for your paper that’s due tomorrow morning. You’ll laugh when you remember that you even had a crush on this guy! You’re definitely buddies now, and he’ll be your back-up fake boyfriend if you ever have to make another guy jealous. Here's my advice for you: Don't worry too much about guys this year. Make it a year about you! Think about your personal goals, your academics, and your friends. You never get your college years back, and who wants all of their memories to be about the jerky guys it didn't work out with? and P.S. take the survey on the right side! ​xo Kate